Self-awareness is the starting point for obtaining personal power. Yet facing the truth about our pretenses and acknowledging all the ways we have rationalized our self-deceptions and biased perceptions can be extremely uncomfortable. It is also challenging to be open and objective when we are consciously identifying emotional patterns that engage our protective defenses. Our defensive habits have the power to guard us from noticing the unconscious ways we generate our own misery by blaming, denying, justifying or even lying to ourselves.
Have you ever noticed the different ways that you sabotage your happiness by avoiding conflict or trying to control others? Are there times in your life when you would rather be right than happy?
Self-awareness is the conscious ability to notice the automatic ways our emotional reactions control perceptions that influence our behaviors.
Without self-awareness, we continue in blindness. We blame, justify and deny our current circumstances, fearing that those circumstances are something outside of our power to manage, control or change.
One of the reasons that fear has the ability to sabotage our happiness is because we are literally wired to resist the uncomfortable effects of change. That is why part of human nature is to resist change by creating fears around things that are unfamiliar to us.
Becoming aware of the unconscious habits that control our thoughts, feelings, attitudes and beliefs will help us push past our fears and create change. Embracing change will give us the ability to move into the unlimited potential of our personal power.